your first love should always be  yourself. remember this.

My sweet girl,  if I am ever missing,  if I am gone in another world,  please remember this.  Please remember  to remind yourself  of this.  Remember that not  all people are bad,  that not all people are good.  That everyone has both  light and darkness, and it is  up to you to seek the light,  and I hope you  always choose the light.  Remember  that sometimes  people actually want to help you,  but also remember  that sometimes  people want to use you  for their gain.

Remember that everything  you do is a shot in the dark,  regardless of how prepared  you might think you are.  And because of that,  know that you’ll never  be prepared enough,  and that everything that  is meant to happen—will happen.  And that when they happen,  it will be out of your reach,  out of your control  but how they affect you  will always be on you.  Remember that you will  never quite understand other people,  let alone yourself.  That you will commit  more mistakes than certainty.  Remember that things will  get bad, really bad, and that’s inevitable,  but also remember that not  all storms last forever.  Remember how nothing  is ever yours, that everything has an expiration date,  from memories, to things,  to people and places.  Nothing ever lasts,  so please take letting go lightly  and kindly.  My sweet girl, I can only  hope that I am there for you  to remind you of all these things.  Now, I am sure that I am missing  a few things here and there.  But ultimately,  if there is one thing to remember,  then let it be this:  That drinking wine  is good for the soul.  That good company  really is good company.  That failure is a beautiful thing.  And that you don’t have to prove yourself to  anyone other than yourself.  Oh, my sweet girl,  the thing is, you can’t trust anyone,  and sometimes  not even yourself.  Life is hard, confusing,  and strange.  Remember that,  always.